You seem to be feeling very stuck. You are describing feelings that might be sadness and frustration. And there are very real reasons to feel those things these days!! You might be starting to feel more of a deep sadness or depression – that can make us feel the sort of stuck you are describing too. Your symptoms and feelings could be related to so many things — a physical struggle, an emotional one or maybe a combination. Don’t worry – whatever it is, there are ways to ease your pain and address the issue. It could be that fear has taken over – the pandemic is making everyone a bit nervous; Fear can really make us paralyzed and sometimes feels just like sadness! Also, you just graduated and might be missing the structure that you had become accustomed to. It might help to develop goals … little goals at the beginning. Each time you hit a goal you may get that burst of good feelings that help propel us to the next goal. Sometimes the stuck sadness you are describing comes from things we can change on our own and sometimes we need help. If goal setting seems too hard, too scary, or just a bad idea, don’t be afraid to reach out, like you’ve done here, for help!! Friends, a trusted counselor, a relative — these are all people who might be able to help you as you work this through. You have already done something to “unstick” yourself just be reaching out today!! That in and of itself is something to be proud of and may be the very first step in beginning to feel better. Remember, if you feel in any way too sad to manage, get help right away. You can call any professional or even 911 in an emergency. But again, you’ve already started the healing – you have reached out and begun. I’d be happy to chat with you about some other ways can understand what is going on and some other ways to get you through it. And bear in mind, many, many people are struggling right now – this has been a maddening, frustrating and scary year. Be kind to yourself.
By Claudia Ribas LCSW